The North Carolina Play Therapy Board hosted Kim Hughes for our fall conference this year. Kim Hughes presented from Becky Bailey’s Conscious Discipline Model. Here are the top 5 takeaways I wish I could share with all parents.
Children need connections to survive and to thrive! There are 4 critical elements to connection;
Children must have mental images of what to do. When my son Caleb was 4 we struggled with bedtime, I made him a list of things to do at bedtime and each one had a picture of HIM doing the task. Fast forward 6 years we are having trouble with people cleaning up after themselves in the bathroom. (Missing toothpaste caps, blue crest all over the sink basin, etc.) Why did I forget about the pictures? A clean up list with PICTURES is on my list of things to do today.
A common reason why children come for therapy is due to behavior issues, trouble hearing NO, difficult temperaments, disobedience. Young children with difficult temperaments need 4 things: to be seen, to be soothed, to be safe, and to be stimulated.
How do we change behavior? How do we create new habits? Neuroplasticity!!!! I explain this to EVERYONE who comes to therapy. This video is an AWESOME explanation.
How to Make A Bully From Scratch? I found this video incredibly moving and a little bit sad. It reminded me of a something Scott Riviere says during his trainings, “Love is the only thing that changes people.” Another video.
For more information on Conscious Discipline visit http://consciousdiscipline.com/
The website has resources for parents, teachers, and mental health professionals. Lots of great free resources! Also please feel free to email me [email protected] if I can help in any way.