Top 5 things I wish I could tell everyone about Conscious Discipline by Jenn Lowe, M.A., LPC, RPT

Nov 3
Top 5

The North Carolina Play Therapy Board hosted Kim Hughes for our fall conference this year. Kim Hughes presented from Becky Bailey’s Conscious Discipline Model. Here are the top 5 takeaways I wish I could share with all parents.

Number 5

Children need connections to survive and to thrive! There are 4 critical elements to connection;

Eye Contact:
Make sure to make eye contact with your loved ones each day. Which may require extra effort in today’s smartphone generation
Presence:
Sharing time and acceptance in the present moment. Love is about presence not presents
Touch:
The only sense that we can’t live without! Children need 8 positive touches a day. Try counting today and try to get to 8, hugs, high-fives, a quick rub on the back as they pass by. (Personally I have found this easy with my 5 month old and more difficult with a 10 year old boy)
Playfulness:
Boosts dopamine, increases attention span, and helps social development

Handout Link

Number 4

Children must have mental images of what to do. When my son Caleb was 4 we struggled with bedtime, I made him a list of things to do at bedtime and each one had a picture of HIM doing the task. Fast forward 6 years we are having trouble with people cleaning up after themselves in the bathroom. (Missing toothpaste caps, blue crest all over the sink basin, etc.) Why did I forget about the pictures? A clean up list with PICTURES is on my list of things to do today.

Number 3

A common reason why children come for therapy is due to behavior issues, trouble hearing NO, difficult temperaments, disobedience. Young children with difficult temperaments need 4 things: to be seen, to be soothed, to be safe, and to be stimulated.

Number 2

How do we change behavior? How do we create new habits? Neuroplasticity!!!! I explain this to EVERYONE who comes to therapy. This video is an AWESOME explanation.

Number 1

How to Make A Bully From Scratch? I found this video incredibly moving and a little bit sad. It reminded me of a something Scott Riviere says during his trainings, “Love is the only thing that changes people.” Another video.


For more information on Conscious Discipline visit http://consciousdiscipline.com/

The website has resources for parents, teachers, and mental health professionals. Lots of great free resources! Also please feel free to contact me if I can help in any way.